How to be Happy
Happiness
lies within your heart. Let go of all negative thoughts and look deep
into your heart. There you will find a message: YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL AND
PERFECT. SMILE!
Steps
- Change your thought process.
If you catch yourself thinking that things aren't going to work
out, then think again. Remember that most things work out better
than you fear
- so imagine that your fears are ungrounded and that success is
ahead. Rather than thinking of the problems and getting desperate,
imagine the best outcome and then work out what you need to do to
make that happen. Follow your "inner guidance system." If the
thoughts you are thinking are not giving you a good feeling, then
think about something else that will make you feel good in that
moment. Monitor your thoughts consistently throughout the day.
Sometimes this may not be as easy as you think if you are stuck in a
"negative" train of thought and your brain chemicals are getting
fired up and forming an "anxiety or anger" pathway. Anxiety, fear
and anger patterns can be interrupted by focusing on doing a math
problem, counting backwards, counting in odd numbers, doing a sudoku
puzzle, etc. - this will dissipate the rush of chemicals that are
making you feel bad. Immediately then go back to picturing
scenes/remembering things/imagining, planning stuff that makes you
feel good.
- Volunteer and learn to be a giver.
It is possible giving time and resources to others who need them
will contribute more to your happiness and positive outlook on life
than most anything else. The key to successful family
relationships is sacrificing time for others. Give of your time to
your spouse and give yourself up for him/her. Devote time and
resources to your children and recognize they are your most valuable
worldly asset. The happiest days of our lives, when we really dig down
deep, is when we see the smile on the face of a child who has
nothing and you have given them something of immense value to them
such as reading them a book, it means you love them enough to give
of your time. Serve at a rescue mission and you will learn the
meaning of "I cried because I had no shoes and then I saw a man who
had no legs." Give and it will be given unto you. Isn't it true
the happiest people we know are typically the ones who for some
foolish reason are always ready to give you the clothes off of
their back? And frequently it is true that the most discontented
people are the ones who are selfish, demanding, and inconsiderate
of others. So form the habit of being a Big Giver and you will know
one of the secrets to successful happy living.
- See the world for what it really is. You have friends and family that love you. Learn How to be thankful. Think of all the things you have to be happy about. Relax, calm down,
take things slower. No one has everything, and everyone has
something of sorrow intermingled with gladness of life. The trick
is to make the laughter outweigh the tears. We cannot change the
past, but we can enjoy today, and look to the future. But if we are
prepared to take credit for the past and accept that everything
that happened in our life, good and bad, has made us the person we
are - the battle is half won.
- Lighten up. Don't take yourself too seriously. Stress
can cause many mental, physical, and spiritual problems in your
life. One of the major causes of stress is worrying about things
that are out of your control. Learn to recognize these things and
if you can truly do nothing about them, then just let them go. Take
time to laugh
at yourself and the situations you find yourself in. Laughter is a
powerful, positive medicine and the calmer and more peaceful you can
take things, the happier your life will be.
- Be yourself.
You can't please everybody. Don't let criticism worry you. Don’t
compare yourself to other people – at work or in your personal
life. In the first place, no one knows what other people are going
through. More importantly, when you compare yourself to other
people, you always tend to see yourself on the "short end". So this
is never a good or helpful thing for you to do. One way to get in
touch with yourself is through journaling. The goal is to open up
completely to yourself and learn to be your best friend by knowing that
the truth (to yourself) will set you free from fear! Practice
self-acceptance no matter what. Never do something you're not
comfortable with. You'll respect yourself for sticking to your
guns, and that self-respect will make you happy.
- Make a scheduled time every day for relaxation.
This is a good time to go over any therapy that you’re working on.
Having a "relaxation" time or a "quiet time" every day
strengthens you, allows the stress and tension in your life to
evaporate, and keeps you more on a positive, even keel.
- Get a job you love. If you have a job you hate or dislike, seriously consider changing your job, or even changing careers.
Having a job that makes you look forward to your day when you wake
up in the morning is critical to a happy, fulfilled life. Making
special time to enjoy interests, hobbies, and family, not only
makes life happier, but helps us be more productive on the job.
- Develop a strong relationship with your family. That includes trust. If you are in an abusive family, you must
find a way to stop the abuse that may include separation. If you
want a stronger relationship with your family, you're going to need
to be honest with them. Tell your family about your life and don't
insult them - it hurts them just as much as it hurts you to be
insulted.
- Choose the right companion.
Get involved with activities that reflect who you are, and get to
know people who like the things you do. Don't rule out the Internet
as a place to find a significant other, just get to know them over
the phone or through a few months of emails before agreeing to a
meeting in person.
- Choose your friends carefully.
Nearly everyone needs someone who cares for them and treats them
well. If you have friends who are treating you badly, then ditch
them and find friends that do care about you. If you can't find any
friends like that in your current circumstances, then look
elsewhere. If you're feeling sad, there's nothing like going out
with your friends to make you feel better. Surround yourself with
friends who are positive, encouraging, and helpful. We all need
this continuing, positive encouragement to make solid positive
progress in life.
- Do what you can for those less fortunate than yourself.
Volunteer at a hospital or be a part of a program, which take care
of patients in some way. When you leave the hospital, you will be
so much happier knowing that you've done something meaningful,
something someone else can appreciate.
- Wish the best for others and mean it. It is so easy to be jealous and petty and forget to celebrate the good fortune of your coworkers, friends and family.
- Keep learning.
Whether it is a new hobby or a new dance, just keep learning
something that interests you. Just find a new interest and go for
it!! It will give you something to keep you occupied, and a new
outlook on life.
- Set goals. Live up to them. When you accomplish a goal,
it's a great feeling. If you put all your failures down to other
people, you put yourself in their power. Take responsibility for
when things go wrong in your life.
- Be healthy.
Give your body and mind what it most needs in order to function in
an "optimal" way. "Optimal" in this case means being the
healthiest you can be, and the most psychologically balanced you
can be. Eat a healthy, balanced diet and ensure that you get all
the vital vitamins and minerals that your body requires for its
optimal biochemical functioning. Supplement your diet with the
appropriate vitamins and minerals if necessary. Get plenty of
exercise. This will prompt the production of the "feel good"
hormones that make you feel happy (endorphins). Plus, there are all the
other obvious fitness and disease fighting benefits, too numerous
to mention here.
- Strive for long term goals vs. short term satisfaction.
It is very easy to gain short term satisfaction, a quick high, a
fast relief from your current problems. But it is what it is , a
"short term" satisfaction, its effects die out very soon, leaving
you again with this empty feeling. Set long term goals, set a goal
which takes some time, some thought, some effort to achieve. This
will make you continually work towards improving yourself bit by
bit and will give you the satisfaction of bringing a permanent
change in your life. A permanent revolution.
- Understand that life can really be a joke and you just have to laugh with it.
- Sometimes
the best way to feel happy is to feel despair and the only way out
is to laugh at the shambles of a predicament you're in.
- Cut out beautiful pictures and paste them into a scrapbook.
- Create
something, be it some artwork (no matter how bad or good), sing
your heart out, dance manically until your feet and body give way
or perhaps cook a delicious meal for people you love.
- Deeply breathe in fresh air.
- Learn how to feel and experience all your different senses in the best possible way: sight, sound, taste, touch, smell.
- Walk down the street and greet people with a smile, a nod and a greeting.
- Enjoy the sunshine.
- If
you have problems getting your feelings and opinions out, learn
the techniques of self-assertion, rather than using anger or
avoidance by bottling them all up inside.
- Take
up a spiritual practice. Research shows that people who meditate
have a somewhat detached approach to the problems of this life, and
are calmer, happier and more contented than usual. Turning to that
higher power, closing your eyes and thinking of artistic images,
doing deep breathing, etc. Can give you a sense of peace.
- Try to make someone else happy and you will feel happy for achieving something!
- Research
suggests that happy people have a simple mental strategy towards
life. When they think about something good that happened to them,
they explore how they personally contributed to that good feeling
and feel happy about themselves.
- Listen to the music that makes you feel good. When you wake up, put on some uplifting / upbeat music.
- Be
honest with yourself. Is there something that is keeping you from
being happy - an addiction, a bad habit, or insecurity? Do something about it!
- Smile! It's contagious and takes less effort than frowning. Stop stressing about money or things out of your control.
- Get plenty of sleep every night.
- When you receive a compliment from others, accept it and say "thank you", with a smile.
- Get healthy or stay healthy by eating right and exercising.
- The
true key to happiness is acceptance - learning to be happy with
what you already have. A lot of people know it but don't quite keep
it in their minds. Never ever compare your life with that of the
others. Don't be too proud, don't get envious. Accept the gifts you
received and stop wishing for something 'more special'.
- Pay
your bills on time, and be in the habit of keeping an orderly
home. Treat yourself to something special once in a while, not
because you 'need' it, but just because you 'want' it. Fulfill your own desires once in a while.
- Caring
for and loving a pet is a great way to stay happy once you reach
that goal. If you have the time, energy, and stability to take on
the responsibility of caring for a pet, you might consider this.
(Don't rush into this or adopt a pet for the wrong reasons! This is
a long-term commitment, but is a great way to share your
happiness).
- Make new friends and talk to them about your problems. Listen to theirs, communicate.
- Get out of your house and hang out with friends.
- Even
in the most terrible times, do not turn to alcohol or drugs, or
anything else that is addictive, abusive to your health and others
or is considered a bad habit.
- Keep
a "Thankful For..." Journal. Every day write down a few things
that you are thankful for and then review what you have written in
past entries. It's a great way to remind yourself to be thankful
for what you have and to boost your mood!
- Talk on the phone to a hot guy/cute girl. This makes that frown go away!
- Think about happy thoughts like winning a million dollars or going to see that new movie this weekend.
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